Heat a tsp of oil, add in coriander seeds and saute for a min. Add in chillies and saute till golden. Add in coconut and give a quick toss. Take it in a blender and make it into a fine paste.
Heat some more oil in a kadai. Add in mustard, urad dal, curry leaves and chillies. Saute for a min.
Add in shallots, garlic, tomatoes and cook till tomatoes turn mushy.
Add in ladysfinger and saute for 7 to 10 mins till it gets golden.
Add in salt, sugar and coconut paste. Cook for few mins.